Late last year, I was asked to participate in trialling The Pampers Golden Sleep Program. This 12 step program was developed to help mums address their baby's sleep issues in conjunction with Tresillian. I was pretty happy to review the program given that I had eight months of issues with Zoe in her first year and was severely sleep deprived. She has now come good at night and it's now Josh at nearly 4 who is waking a lot and ending up in bed with us every night. I still find myself not getting a great sleep with all the disturbances and then having a restless preschooler next to me, often using my hip as his pillow. Comfortable, not.
I was sent all the information as well as a pack of Pampers Dry Max nappies. I was very happy to try the new Pampers out as we are Pampers users anyway, and the variety that we were using were trim but the new Dry Max ones are trimmer again! They are ultra thin but super duper absorbent! Josh was always a super wee'er overnight so I wish Pampers had been around when he was little. Zoe isn't so much but these still keep her nice and dry overnight.
Anyway, the 12 step program turned out to be the things that I had learnt and done with both my babes.
In a nutshell, they are (with my comments included):
1. Having realistic expectations (check!)
2. Teaching your baby how to settle (I did this to the best of my ability, but my method for this involved my presence and help for them until they were comfortable doing it on their own)
3. Looking out for tired signs (check!)
4. Understanding how much sleep your baby needs (each baby is different and I learned to read them both and work out what they needed to keep them happy little vegemites)
5. Understanding that your baby's sleep cycle is different to adults (I'm a reader and I came across this information in a few baby books)
6. Setting a routine for your baby (we never anything too strict, more of a general pattern to the day that was flexible depending on other priorities, this step was more about preparing little ones for bedtime approaching which we like to do with reading before lights out at night)
7. Wrapping your baby (big fans of wrapping although Zoe less so, she was out of wraps by about 5 months, Josh not until 8 or 9 months. Wrapping really helped my newborns sleep better)
8. Settling in arms in the early weeks (definitely!)
9. Hands on settling for baby's under 6 months (definitely!)
10. Comfort settling babies over 6 months (a little of this for us but still quite hands on)
11. Parental presence for parents who like to stay with their baby (this was more us)
12. Crying is part of normal behaviour (understood, but I always wanted to stop the crying as quickly as possible if I could work out what need the baby had, I never liked my babes crying for long, especially if there was something I could do to resolve it).
Overall, I think the program is pretty sound. It also includes information to help dispel some myths like 'newborns should be independent and sleep on their own' as I think there are still a lot of first time mums out there who think this or at least are unsure of what the expectation is of a newborn, and it's great that it can help these mums feel ok and completely normal if they are nursing their babies to sleep. Nothing is more beautiful.
At the end of the day, it's important to acknowledge that even after following these steps, it's not a magic formula for a perfectly sleeping baby. We did all these things with Zoe from the time she was a newborn - she slept perfectly for the first four months and then for the next eight months of her first year she slept terribly at night. Despite being consistent and doing everything within our power to get her to stay asleep, nothing worked except my getting up several times a night to comfort her and help her back off to sleep. Finally at 12 months, she just didn't need my help anymore. We didn't do anything differently, it just happened when it did. I spoke to several experts at the time and was on a list to attend a sleep clinic for a week with Zoe but after already doing everything they were advising me, not even the experts could tell me what the problem was. I just think Zoe wanted me near her (albeit several times a night) for whatever reason for that period.....to comfort her back to sleep. Yes it was exhausting but it was what it was and I'm just thankful she's a great little sleeper now.
Thanks for reading if you got this far! Would love your thoughts on your babies/children's sleep too......how do your kids sleep?